I don't care how many times you tell yourself otherwise or how adamant of a check list you have - you do not know what you want in a guy. Sure, you may have somewhat of a "rough draft" of you're ideal S.O., but until you've really played the field you're not going to know who or what the exact right fit for you is.
How the hell are you supposed to know if you really want to commit to someone, let a lone spend the rest of your life with them, if your dating roster consists of some guy you went out with for a month and your sixth grade "boyfriend"? Playing the field helps you narrow down what qualities you value in a guy and what qualities will leave you running for the hills.
While even I am light years away from any real commitment, I have played the field enough to know that there are some pretty key players in the game every girl should date in order to get a taste of a little bit of everything.
1. The career driven guy. I'd go as far as to say this may be the most important guy to date for one very key reason; where someone places their career in terms of priorities will determine the tone of the rest of your relationship. I'm also going to go ahead and put this unpopular opinion out there as well: it's actually 100 percent OK for someone to put their career as their number one priority. That's a personal choice and a perfectly reasonable and ambitious one, but this kind of guy is only going to work with a certain kind of girl.
For me personally, finding someone like this is a breathe of fresh air, because to me my career is my number one priority. It's better to figure out whether this guy is one for you as soon as possible. We're all all on the cusp of the real world, which means real world relationships and everything that comes with them.
2. The romantic. The romantic guy is important to date because you need to figure out just how sentimental you like your guys to be. The romantic guy won't necessarily be clingy, but he will put his romantic relationships as his top priority. Some of us may not be that outwardly emotional and there for may not mesh well with romantic. Others may find the level of intimacy in this relationship is something that they need in order to really feel connected and happy.
He's the extreme on the emotional spectrum and will help you evaluate just where you lie on that scale too. If you feel suffocated and a little weirded out by some of the things this guy does, you know you can cross him off your list of potential long term lovers..
3. The mans man. The mans man is the guy who values bro-ing out over everything. He was probably in a frat in college and
He's a very specific kind of guy, but he may just be the guy for you. This guy is important to date because again, he's an extreme. Some of us can deal with that and some of us are looking for a little more diluted version of him, but you can't knock it 'til you try it.
4. Mr. Adventure. You are never going to sit still with Mr. Adventure. This guy is constantly on the move and only very rarely genuinely wants to Netflix and chill. There is so much out there for him to do and if you date him, he'll want you to come along for the adventure. He's not a kick back and enjoy a lazy Sunday kind of guy.
Dating him will help you figure out what kind of relationship you want. Some people are perfectly content staying in for a night at home, while others find this much adventure brings them and their S.O. closer together. Dating Mr. Adventure will let you decided which kind of relationship is best for you.
5. Prince Charming.I think it's first very important to make sure that you understand that Prince Charming is very different from the romantic. While the romantic values love and his relationship as his biggest priority, Prince Charming may only act like he does. Prince Charming is the suck-up of all the guys you'll date, he says what he thinks you want to hear whether he means it or not.
This may seem like an odd one to add to the list, but I know girls who specifically look for guys who do and say exactly what they're supposed to. While that sounds pretty boring to me, to each their own. Maybe this is what you're looking for.
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